It’s likely you know someone who blames the world for everything. From the disintegration of their fourth marriage to a fender-bender to losing at bridge, nothing is ever their fault. If you want to remain the same, and want to …
How Can We Use the Differences in Our Relationships to Inspire Us? Read more »
PHIL: When we started looking at how we get along so well, we saw that we used a method, and we named it Our Process. It’s a way of exchanging positions and feelings that allow us to find a mutual …
How to Find Peace and Harmony in Your Relationships Through Mutual Solutions Read more »
MAUDE: Today while reflecting on what contributes to our peaceful harmonious way of being together, we zeroed in on the way we move through our lives separately within our connectedness. We are well matched in our desire for independent action, …
How Does Trust Grow and Support Non-Interference in Your Relationship? Read more »
PHIL: We’ve written before about how to accept the differences between people, especially in a partnership, but a whole other aspect of differences is the pleasure and richness that they offer. As someone we interviewed said, “It would be so …
How to Greet the Differences in Your Relationships as Blessings Read more »
Maude was talking with a dear friend who is in a harmonious long term relationship, and was relating an incident that had occurred between her and her husband earlier. It seems that they have their phones synced so that when …
Why Sitting on Your Hurt Feelings Only Makes it Worse Read more »
PHIL: Many years ago, when I was squatting in London with a bunch of other people, I wrote a proposal that we should all find a place in the country and move there. I even organized a visit to a …
For the New Year, Share Your Loves and Longings in Your Relationships Read more »
As the year is drawing to a close, we thought it would be fun to share our top 12 favorite photos from the blogs of 2021. Click on each one to see it full-size, or click on the link below …
PHIL: I am giving a talk this week on cooperation in society and how it requires both trust and shared intention between people. The intention comes from our shared stories about who we are and what our goals are. The …
Every Relationship has Shared Stories at its Heart – What Are Yours? Read more »
A reader emailed us about last week’s blog: “It sounds simple but not easy. I certainly haven’t mastered it yet!” We maintain harmony in our relationship the same way a bike stays in balance when being ridden. It happens with …
Why Those Little Differences Needn’t Be a Problem in Your Relationship Read more »
PHIL: The obvious way that you compare things is by looking at how they differ. Which oven is self-cleaning? Does this bank charge overdraft fees? Less obvious is to look at the similarities, because they don’t help you make choices …
How Can You See Differences in Your Relationships as Welcome Additions? Read more »