In this week’s blog, we’ve written about a form of reframing that can improve your relationship. Here’ are some articles that present positive reframing in different and interesting ways.
What Kind of Frame is Your Relationship in? “In counseling, it’s common to hear stories about how a person believes their significant other has “changed” over the years.
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The common wisdom about relationships is that there will be times of conflict. You will find writer after writer advising you to handle this by talking, being kind, communicating, compromising, making lists, having date nights and accepting the inevitable.
But even though that may describe the majority of relationships, we say it is not inevitable and there is another way to interact that is conflict-free, non-adversarial, peaceful.
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In this week’s blog, we stated that you do not always have to struggle in your relationship. Open your minds and your hearts to another way and transform it into one full of calm, peace and joy. You can create a life without hardship and difficulty.
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Last year we went to a talk by Anne Lamott. The venue holds a couple of thousand people and the place was filled to the rafters. Anne gave a wonderful talk filled with personal revelations, sharing of her journey and lots of great humor, often pointed at herself.
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This week, we wrote about transforming your relationship, a theme we also taught in our workshop. Here are some authors sharing their thoughts on various aspects of transformation.
Can One Person Transform a Relationship? “It sounds impossible, right? After all, it takes two to tango.
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Last week we gave a workshop on transforming your relationship. Our work involves creating and re-framing relationships as peaceful conflict-free ones. In order to do that a change in perception is critical – a change in how you see relationships. What is the nature of that transformation?
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In this week’s blog, we wrote about how truth transforms arguments in your relationship. Here are some articles that cover this from various viewpoints.
How Secrets and Lies Destroy Relationships “…in an intimate relationship, emotional honesty includes allowing our partner to know who we are.
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Maude offered to watch the grand-kids for a week, taking her away from the house except for school hours. The day before she was leaving, we were edgy with each other.
Don’t ask what it was about. I think it was my fault, feeling our usual life was being disrupted, eager to get space for writing, annoyed at having to make a series of decisions – who knows?
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Phil and Maude
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In this week’s blog, we wrote about how we started on a trip with different ideas and quickly resolved the differences. Here are some articles on how you can turn things around by changing your viewpoint.
Transform Your Relationship by Assuming the Best Intentions “I used to think he was out to get me.
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We are back from our magical anniversary trip and it was even more than we had hoped for! Our plan for not having a plan worked out really well for us and led to some funny and glorious adventures!
We also had an experience which we think is worth sharing with all of you, and which might help some of you who are ready to recognize the possibility for changing patterns that aren’t working in your relationship, and how to do it.
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With this book
you too can have a relationship without conflict.
Check out some of our interviews with Santa Barbara News-Press, Michael and Jacqueline, Lynelle Paulick on KCSB, Gail Brenner and Bill Weil.
