Our relationship has been filled with revelations for both of us. The largest of those has been its sacred nature. We use this phrase consciously, as we came to this truth through actual experience. We call it our sacred space, …
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We thought we would share our individual writings this time instead of merging them. MAUDE: This week it has felt like we are in the middle of hell! Fires are raging all around us (We are in Southern California.) Friends …
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When we sit down to write our blogs, we have two main principles we keep in mind. First is that we want to share our personal experience on how we live peacefully in our relationship. Second, is to convey how …
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Maude came up with the phrase “all in” the other night, and that simple phrase crystallized how we experience our relationship. You’ve probably been in a conversation with someone who keeps checking his cell phone. “Uh huh, I’m listening.” Or …
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A student asked, “When times of great difficulty visit us, how should we meet them?” The teacher said, “Welcome.” Last week we wrote about the importance of staying present during a crisis such as a flat tire. This week, the universe …
You find the car has a flat tire just as you’re about to leave for a doctor’s appointment. You’re house-sitting, you take the trash out and the door slams behind you, locking you out. You are the honoree at an …
For our 9th wedding anniversary we rented an Airbnb in the California Sierra mountains. We were sitting on the bed, luxuriating in being together in peaceful seclusion, and decided to each write our feelings down. Not surprisingly, although we wrote …
Mature love is union under the condition of preserving one’s integrity, one’s individuality…. In love the paradox occurs that two beings become one and yet remain two. Erich Fromm In our interviews with couples, we have found that there is …
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Are you sleep-walking through your relationship or are you actually present? Do you and your partner really talk to and hear each other, or are you just occupying the same space? Is your mind filled with what happened in the …
Often when asked about the important factors to relationship success, we mention active listening. Many people may not really understand what this is. In short, it’s how to really hear what the other person is saying. You might think you …
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