It was really easy to find this week’s blog topic: being grateful. We are so grateful for the fires to be contained and that almost all of us survived! We are so grateful for our blessed relationship and the peace …
Gratefulness Expands Your Relationship and Your World Read more »
One of the ways to describe our relationship is that we are in balance. That is, of course, a metaphor, as is nearly all of language. It works so well here because of its multiple meanings. The first is of …
Balancing Togetherness and Individuality in a Relationship Read more »
We are excited to share with you today the work of Dorothie and Martin Hellman. The Hellmans transformed an almost failed marriage into one where they reclaimed the love that they felt when they first met fifty years ago. They …
Phil and Maude’s Friday Feature: Dorothie and Martin Hellman Read more »
We thought we would share our individual writings this time instead of merging them. MAUDE: This week it has felt like we are in the middle of hell! Fires are raging all around us (We are in Southern California.) Friends …
How to Maintain Presence in the Face of Adversity Read more »
This morning we were at our local breakfast nook working on blog topics. We each shared ideas about a possible topic, and some tensions arose unexpectedly. Maude wanted to continue last week’s theme of peace, and Phil wanted a different …
How to Solve Differences From a Place of Mutuality Read more »
We often write about the absence of conflict in our relationship. Recently we’ve been discussing with a few of our readers whether it’s true that we never have arguments, or whether a few slip in. They can’t imagine a relationship …
The Power that Peace Brings to Your Relationship Read more »
When we sit down to write our blogs, we have two main principles we keep in mind. First is that we want to share our personal experience on how we live peacefully in our relationship. Second, is to convey how …
How Do Commitment and Presence Affect Your Relationship? Read more »
A professor noticed that anxiety and excitement have several physiological markers in common, so she recruited people to sing karaoke, and quelled their anxiety by having them say “I am excited.” This did not change the anxiety, but it did …
Reframe Your Feelings and Change Your Relationship Read more »
Phil: I want to write about how we create these blogs because it illuminates the way we are together. We usually talk about topics until one appears and feels fruitful, explore it some, then go off and write separately. When …
The Paradox of Union and Separateness in a Relationship Read more »
Phil loves reading advice columns and sharing whether or not he thinks they have offered insights. In a recent column, a woman described a situation where her husband had asked her a question casually in the course of another discussion. …