Category: Presence

How to Both Stay Present and Move Forward

A student asked, “When times of great difficulty visit us, how should we meet them?”
The teacher said, “Welcome.”
Last week we wrote about the importance of staying present during a crisis such as a flat tire. This week, the universe pushed the button labeled “Practice What You Preach” and produced the U.S.
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How to Stay Present in a Crisis

You find the car has a flat tire just as you’re about to leave for a doctor’s appointment. You’re house-sitting, you take the trash out and the door slams behind you, locking you out. You are the honoree at an awards ceremony.
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How to Celebrate Your Relationship Our Anniversary Trip

For our 9th wedding anniversary we rented an Airbnb in the California Sierra mountains. We were sitting on the bed, luxuriating in being together in peaceful seclusion, and decided to each write our feelings down. Not surprisingly, although we wrote totally independently, and we have different writing styles, we chose to highlight the same three aspects of our relationship; total acceptance, being present, and taking time to be together.
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The Paradox of Intimacy and Separateness in a Relationship

Woodcarving of couple

Mature love is union under the condition of preserving one’s integrity, one’s individuality…. In love the paradox occurs that two beings become one and yet remain two. Erich Fromm
In our interviews with couples, we have found that there is a really tricky area that partners must learn to navigate together.
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7 Ways to be Present With Your Partner

Are you sleep-walking through your relationship or are you actually present?
Do you and your partner really talk to and hear each other, or are you just occupying the same space?
Is your mind filled with what happened in the past or worries about what is going to happen in the future?
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How to Improve Your Relationship With Active Listening

Often when asked about the important factors to relationship success, we mention active listening. Many people may not really understand what this is. In short, it’s how to really hear what the other person is saying. You might think you do that all the time already, but odds are you can do better.
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How to Transform Your Relationship and Live in the Present

In order to experience the kind of peace filled and passionate relationships we describe, it is necessary to go through a transformation. But what do we mean by this kind of transformation and how do you get there?
It is an experience that, however subtly, actually changes your viewpoint.
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How to Maintain Sacred Space in a Relationship

In last week’s blog we discussed what sacred space is in a relationship. In short, it’s time set aside without any outside distractions when you can enjoy each other’s company and reconnect emotionally. There are still a number of questions to be looked at.
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What is Sacred Space in a Relationship?

I so look forward to the time when we come together at night. It is a counter to the noise of the world; it cleanses my soul of the grime of the day. I am no longer pulled by the obligations of the world; I float unbuffeted by them. 
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How to Avoid Loss of Intimacy

Intimacy. That all important element that is the life blood of all successful relationships. We all start out relationships experiencing the intimacy of coming together, of getting to know each other and of making those special connections that lead to commitment and love.
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