The other day we were visiting some dear friends who had just moved in together, after they had dated for four years while living separately. They described to us their unique arrangement of sleeping together and sleeping apart. They had …
Our experience has shown us that it is very important to be positive about both your partner and your relationship. Where you put your attention can often change your entire experience of what is happening. We recently read an article …
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Recently one of our readers asked if we could write about finding relationships when you are older. This connected with a discussion we have had a number of times and we feel it would be fun and hopefully helpful to …
One of the links in last week’s Reading Corner contained the statement “In successful relationships, respect is more important than communication.” Usually communication is touted as the most important thing in a relationship, so this was an unusual claim. We …
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Maude met someone the other day who shared the tale of celebrating his 35th wedding anniversary. Grinning and happy, he explained that he and his wife had taken time out and gone away on a trip together to celebrate. They …
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Maude came up with the phrase “all in” the other night, and that simple phrase crystallized how we experience our relationship. You’ve probably been in a conversation with someone who keeps checking his cell phone. “Uh huh, I’m listening.” Or …
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We try to honor our birthdays and anniversaries by getting away and taking time to step back, reflect on what has been created and what is to come. We are at a wonderful Airbnb in Joshua Tree celebrating our 12th …
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BEING SNIPPY is something that all of us have been at some time or another. We find ourselves in a hurry and don’t take the time to stop and explain clearly. Instead we just speak or answer back quickly, and often …
To pay attention, this is our endless and proper work. Mary Oliver You probably think the whole world is in focus, like a photograph. It isn’t. Place your finger a few inches away from here, focus on it, and try …
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Differences are often seen as creating problems and conflict. Three main areas are: how things are done styles of socializing passions How Things are Done From the toilet seat and toothpaste to finances and child-rearing, what our partner does affects us. …
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