Reading Corner

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This week, we continued our 5-part series with how to create peace instead of conflict in your relationships. Here are some writers discussing the issue of acceptance in relationships.

Creating a Resilient Relationship Through Acceptance ” Both self-acceptance and acceptance of our partner are connected; after all, how can we accept our partner and all their quirks if we can’t even accept our own? There are times when couples treat each other with such contempt, acting like enemies. In the midst of all this chaos, they forget they’re still on the same side of trying to create a harmonious life together. Couples get stuck in their pattern of hurting each other to the point that it creates such distance between them.”

5 Ways to Heal Your Relationship Through Acceptance “Working on accepting the many differences in your partner can be an emotionally beneficial exercise for both you and your partner. The practice of acceptance emancipates you from the stress and unhappiness of your futile efforts to change your partner. Once you relinquish trying to change or control your partner and accept your differences, not only will you feel relief, but your relationship will feel more peaceful and harmonious. Naturally, the concept of acceptance can be hard to come to terms with. For some people, it means giving up, complete inaction and/or enabling your partner’s differing choices, characteristics and behaviors. Yet, acceptance doesn’t have to be characterized that way. You can choose to define acceptance as a willingness to tolerate and even see the good in those behaviors you cannot change.”

The Power of Accepting your Relationship “It is often said that happiness comes from accepting our relationship. And most might agree that acceptance is necessary in relationships, BUT, the real question is: how do we get to that place of deepened acceptance in our relationship? This is a challenging topic. For some, acceptance may be a process over time while for others it may come a bit easier. Here are my thoughts on this challenging topic!”

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This week, we wrote about how to deal with differences in your relationships. Here are some articles on the topic of dealing with differences.

How To Navigate Your Differences in a Relationship “It’s not unusual to meet someone, fall for them and then begin to learn that there are certain topics of conversation that always end in a disagreement. After all, we’re all individuals, we can be similar in some ways while being different in others. Compatibility for life and a strong relationship doesn’t mean we need to think about or do everything in the same way. Instead, it means we complement each other, generally work well as a team, enjoy being together and more often than not our two halves are better than the whole.”

Relationship Tips: How to Handle Differences for a Successful Relationship “In a Wall Street Journal article, columnist Elizabeth Bernstein writes about the challenge of marriage between an ardent planner and a partner who prefers to be spontaneous. Perhaps you’ve known people in a marriage like that—or maybe you’re one of them! In my work with couples, I have heard many a planner call their spouse passive-aggressive or the spontaneous one refer to their spouse as a control freak.”

How to Navigate Differences in Your Relationship “But how do you know if a difference is more than something to seek counsel about, but is indeed a deal breaker? Because, the fact is, some are. Deal breakers are those differences that you anticipate will have a consistently divisive impact on your relationship. The two most important words in that sentence being “consistently divisive.” It’s impossible to grow together as a couple if your relationship lacks a foundation of unity.”

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This week, we wrote about how recognizing and celebrating uniqueness helps your relationships. Here are some different perspectives on the issue of uniqueness in relationships.

Is There Space For Both Personalities In Your Relationship? “Most couples do not understand or appreciate the differences in both partners’ personalities. As a result, they fight over trying to change each other, rather than leveraging each partner’s unique personality to build a strong and healthy relationship.”

Intimate communication through co-creating uniqueness “Dr John Stewart proposes that people can fulfil the deep human need for connection with others in dialogic conversations. At the heart of this process lies the concept of individual ‘uniqueness’. This can be co-constructed by the partners in dialogic conversation, as each takes turns sharing unique aspects of themselves and helping the uniqueness of the other to emerge. Getting to know the other person as a unique human being goes beyond empathy, and enables a sense of intimacy and an enriched relationship based on understanding individual differences.”

Embracing Uniqueness in Marriage: The Key to a Fulfilling Relationship “Marriage is a beautiful union of two individuals who come together to share their lives, dreams, and aspirations. While it’s a journey filled with love and companionship, it’s also a path paved with unique qualities, experiences, and perspectives that each partner brings into the relationship. In the world of marriage, no two people are identical, and therein lies the beauty of it all. Understanding and celebrating the uniqueness of each spouse can be the cornerstone of a happy and enduring marriage.”

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This week, we wrote about why core values are important in all your relationships. This is a subject that many people do not consider, and yet it is so vital to relationships. Here are some writers that have covered it.

Key values in a relationship: Why are they important? “What does “core values” mean? They are your moral North Star: a set of fundamental personal beliefs and principles that establish your standard of behavior and influence how you see the world. When living in the rosy glow of a new relationship, it can feel natural to let your needs slide a little or confuse affection for compatibility. But over time, if you and your new significant other(s) don’t share key values, the incongruity can become detrimental to your relationship.”

Understanding Your Core Values in Relationships (No They’re Not Your Common Interests) “One of the things that people are most confused about and that I get asked a lot of questions about, is the issue of ‘common interests’ and letting superficial things inadvertently get mixed in with your ‘core’ values. Over the past few days I’ve been talking about value and values in relationships, and in this post, I put a clear division between the nice to have stuff that doesn’t actually cause your relationship to endure unless you have the ‘core’ values covered off.”

6 Important Values in a Relationship to Look For “Our morals and values make up a key part of who we are. Values in a relationship are a key part of compatibility. Even though several factors go into finding the right person for you, finding someone who aligns with your morals and values in a relationship — that’s the real test. Our relationship’s core values affect everything from daily decision-making to long-term life plans. Making sure you’re on the same page in terms of core values will help you and your romantic partner build a fulfilling, healthy relationship.”

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This week, we wrote about the five fundamentals of peaceful relationships. Here are three articles that talk about different aspects of these themes.

Equality in Relationships: Fostering Balance and Respect “While the concept of equality may vary in different relationships, it commonly encompasses the principles of fairness, open communication, and empathy. Equality in relationships goes beyond just the surface level. It requires a genuine effort to recognize and appreciate each other as individuals with unique perspectives and experiences. It means valuing each other’s opinions, choices, and contributions, regardless of societal norms or expectations. When both partners actively strive for equality, it creates a solid foundation for a healthy and fulfilling relationship.”

Honor & Respect Are Essential To Marriage “Building a bridge to connect will draw you closer to your partner, not judgment and harsh attitudes. Showing honor and respect will move you away from destructive attitudes toward your partner and help build and maintain a healthy relationship. Honor measures a person’s integrity, ethics, and values, such as honesty, compassion, and kindness. Honor is at the center of who we are as humans and how we interact with others, and it strongly influences our lives and choices.”

I respect and honor my partner’s individuality and uniqueness “It is important to recognize and appreciate the individuality and uniqueness of your partner. Each person has their own set of experiences, beliefs, and values that make them who they are. By respecting and honoring these qualities, you are showing your partner that you value and accept them for who they are. When you acknowledge your partner’s individuality, you are also creating a space for open communication and understanding. You are allowing them to express themselves freely without fear of judgment or criticism. This can lead to a deeper level of intimacy and connection in your relationship.”

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