Reading Corner

Links related to the weekly posts.

 

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In this week’s blog, we wrote about how to make all your relationships successful. Here are some fascinating articles that speak to this topic.

Why Positive Relationships Are Needed for Emotional Health “It’s always good to see research that reveals how and why positive human connection in essential for emotional-physical health, wellbeing, and growth — especially when you experience adverse circumstances. A new study, reported in Personality and Social Psychology Review adds to that knowledge.”

5 Benefits of Healthy Relationships “Humans have an inherent desire to be close to other people. To connect and build relationships. While a man stranded on an island, talking to a volleyball (you remember the movie!) isn’t necessarily “healthy,” his compulsion for company is. That’s because the fact of the matter is, healthy relationships (romantic relationships, friendships, familial relationships — they all count!) can help make for a healthier overall life. But what exactly does a healthy relationship look like?”

Social Relationships and Health: A Flashpoint for Health Policy NIH paper with links to research: “Studies show that social relationships have short- and long-term effects on health, for better and for worse, and that these effects emerge in childhood and cascade throughout life to foster cumulative advantage or disadvantage in health. This article describes key research themes in the study of social relationships and health, and it highlights policy implications suggested by this research.”

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In this week’s blog, we wrote about 5 important things for a new relationship. Here are some more suggestions for establishing a successful relationship.

Don’t Start A New Relationship Until You’ve Done These 4 Things “… Over the next few years, I attended support groups and coaching sessions, shed tears over past choices, spent nights reading personal growth books, and tried to make sense of the madness of this new frontier. At some point, I realized I was done. I had faced my demons. And while my past would always be a part of me, I was truly ready to move forward. Here are most important lessons I learned about finding true, lasting love:”

What Research Tells Us About the Most Successful Relationships “While a perfect relationship might be beyond the grasp of science, studies on what makes a relationship successful are everywhere. Over the years, these studies have come up with some trends that help us better understand what sets a long lasting relationship apart from one that ends quickly.”

5 Steps to Take Before Starting a New Relationship “Forget “The Rules.” Stop believing “He’s just not into you.” In fact, skip all the self-help confusion that instructs you on how to morph yourself into the perfect match for Mr. (or Ms.) Right. People who are genuinely happy with their romantic choices spend more energy working on their own self-development than on appearing a certain way to attract love. Instead of focusing on playing the game to entice a partner, put your focus on these five principles and, over time, the right match for you will present itself:”

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In this week’s blog, we wrote about communication and individuality in a relationship. Here are some articles that address this.

How to Improve Communication in Relationships: 7 Essential Skills “We love connecting with other people because it makes us happy. And good communication is the key when it comes to positive social interaction. But what does a healthy conversation look like? How can you avoid overcommunicating? And how can you improve communication in a romantic relationship? Read on for a summary of some important models and theories in the field of communication.”

8 Crucial Ways All Couples Can Improve Their Relationships “If you want to improve your relationship, there are plenty of suggestions from experts that discuss trips, staycations, date night, and getting back to basics. While those things might assist, they usually only have a short-term effect; as soon as the romantic situation ends, the original challenges return. Here are some crucial and fundamental ways you can improve your relationship the moment you stop reading this article:”

RELATIONSHIPS This is written in a rather therapeutic style but has good insights into the core aspects of relationships and communication. “In the optimal case the person who loves, in spite of their identification with the other, allows the other to live their life and does not want to take it over. There is the realization that the other is different from one self, a person in their own right and in a very real way the person who loves stands off, enjoying whatever direction the other is taking, even if it is not what they had expected or preferred the other to do. The recognition and acceptance of the otherness of the person also implies an understanding of them. To love well one must love knowledgably and intelligently.”

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In this week’s blog, we wrote about core values and the deal breakers for a relationship. These articles have a lot of suggestions for you.

How to Find Out What You Want in a Relationship “Knowing exactly what you want out of a relationship is very difficult, especially if you’re young or inexperienced. Even if you’ve dated many other people, every relationship is unique, and you might have different priorities now than you have had in the past. Finding out what you want in a relationship can be a laborious process, but it’s worth it.”

Tony Robbins on How To Master Relationships This is a pitch for an audio program, but the article itself goes into great detail about how to create a better relationship “Some of the best relationship advice I learned long ago is that “opposites attract, but similarities bind.” I also learned that “true love is falling in love with the same person over and over.” But it’s time to dive deeper. Much deeper. This article is a deep dive on how to find love, create your ultimate relationship, and improve your relationship skills.”

When a ‘deal breaker’ really isn’t. Knowing what’s important in a relationship “Imagine your ideal mate. What would he or she look like? Do for a living? Be passionate about? Now imagine who that person wouldn’t be. What characteristics would immediately shoot up a red flag and have you hightailing it in the other direction?”

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In this week’s blog, we wrote about how to laugh and rejoice in difficult times. These articles shed some interesting light on laughter.

Laughter: The Surprising Secret to Surviving Tough Times “Just 24 hours earlier, I was overwhelmed (three keynotes and four workshops in three weeks) and in pain (recovering from foot surgery). And that was before I’d even thought about what was going on in the world. It’s been a distressing month, hasn’t it? But there I was, feeling happier than I had in a long time. The cure to my bad mood had been simple — I just needed a good laugh.”

Dalai Lama on Laughter and Compassion “I have been confronted with many difficulties throughout the course of my life, and my country is going through a critical period. But I laugh often, and my laughter is contagious. When people ask me how I find the strength to laugh now, I reply that I am a professional laugher.”

10 things you may not know about laughter “The first time I did stand-up comedy my only coherent thought afterwards was that I wanted to do it again immediately, and do it better. Why is laughter so much fun? As a psychologist, this is especially puzzling as pretty much everything we think about laughter is wrong. So here are 10 things you, probably, didn’t know about laughter.”

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