On the first anniversary of our meeting, we made an astounding discovery. We realized that we had never had an argument, had never fought, not even a little. It has now been twelve years we’ve been together (ten since we …
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One of the links in last week’s Reading Corner contained the statement “In successful relationships, respect is more important than communication.” Usually communication is touted as the most important thing in a relationship, so this was an unusual claim. We …
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Last week in our blog, we wrote “Learning to accept love is one of the great skills of life.” This line came from the way Phil used to handle compliments some years ago. He would deflect compliments about, say, a …
Lynelle Paulick has a radio show on the local UCSB station on Tuesdays at noon and is hoping to be picked up by KCSB, which has wider So.Cal. coverage. We were on the show last Tuesday and spent a wonderful …
Drama, an all too familiar word in many relationships. “I can’t keep on with this relationship – just too much drama!” “We really love each other, but there is always so much drama. I wish we could find another way.” …
For our 9th wedding anniversary we rented an Airbnb in the California Sierra mountains. We were sitting on the bed, luxuriating in being together in peaceful seclusion, and decided to each write our feelings down. Not surprisingly, although we wrote …
Have you felt completely accepted by someone in your life? Do you know how the experience of full acceptance changes you? Many people do not have any frame of reference to understand these questions. The relationships in their life have …
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When there is something we need to agree on, whether it be a decision we have to make or a problem that needs to be resolved, we have found a way of dealing with it that does not involve any …
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“Okay, so our core values match and we are ready to pursue a long term relationship.” So what now? “We’ve renewed our vows and want to re-create our relationship with peaceful intentions and an awareness of being on the same …
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Have you ever placed one hand flat on the table and smashed it hard with a hammer? Thought not, and that was because you chose not to. That is the same reason we never argue – because we choose not …