The beginning of love is to let those we love be perfectly themselves, and not to twist them to fit our own image. Otherwise we love only the reflection of ourselves we find in them. Thomas Merton Difference represents danger, the …
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The Three A’s: Acceptance, Acknowledgment, Appreciation I believe the greatest gift I can conceive of having from anyone is to be seen by them, heard by them, to be understood and touched by them. The greatest gift I can give …
We’ve talked about the importance of having aligned core values for a successful relationship. Breaking this down further, you can think of core values at two levels: universal and individual. Universal core values are based on the understanding that we …
In our last blogs we’ve been talking about the Spectrum of Acceptance and Core Values which lie at one end of the spectrum. Next on the spectrum are the areas of middle ground. These are places of divergence between you and your …
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I want to jot down some notes on finding a partner. Three points. Understanding what makes for conflict-free relating provides the basis for what to look for in a partner. You have to walk the walk to attract a like …
Nearly every night we retire early enough to have time with each other.It may be conversation, the crossword or a movie, but whatever we choose, it acts as a zone of tranquility that restores us to the center. I attribute …
Dear Maude, I like your AAA Post – that we all want to be accepted, appreciated and acknowledged. You hint in the title “Do Unto Others…” of a necessary symmetry, which is, of course, the golden rule: do as you …
It seems we’re both reaching the conclusion that you must have worked* on yourself before you can achieve a conflict-free relationship. And what does “work” mean? It means Using self reflection to know yourself. Being able to step back and …
Hi sweetie, I thought it would be useful to describe the context of “intention to accept” that you blogged about. We were discussing how easy it is for us to come together and be open to each other, and attributed …
We talk a lot about acceptance, but people often reject it because they take it to mean “having to put up with“, so I want to examine in more detail how and where it applies. The acceptability of actions lies …