The point of marriage is not to create a quick commonality by tearing down all boundaries; on the contrary, a good marriage is one in which each partner appoints the other to be the guardian of his solitude, and thus …
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The ways that we behave in our personal relationships are a pretty good approach to all relationships, whether BFF or your bank teller. Recently Maude was relating an experience with a beloved long term friend of hers. She was bemoaning …
We’re away celebrating our wedding anniversary at a cabin in the woods, so here’s a popular blog from the past. Drama, an all too familiar word in many relationships. “I can’t keep on with this relationship – just too much …
We’ve had a very busy week. Maude had mid-month reports and a flood of uncommon work issues, and Phil took on some programming work, which for him is all-consuming. But we noticed last night that through it all, none of …
During an early morning embrace, Phil asked “When does the honeymoon end?” (Just to put this in context, we have been together for 12½ years!) This started a really fun conversation on how the honeymoon phase of a relationship is …
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All too often, people enter a relationship to fill a void, a sense of lack that people have about their lives or how they feel about themselves. It may seem at the beginning of such a relationship that their needs …
On the first anniversary of our meeting, we made an astounding discovery. We realized that we had never had an argument, had never fought, not even a little. It has now been twelve years we’ve been together (ten since we …
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One of the links in last week’s Reading Corner contained the statement “In successful relationships, respect is more important than communication.” Usually communication is touted as the most important thing in a relationship, so this was an unusual claim. We …
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Last week in our blog, we wrote “Learning to accept love is one of the great skills of life.” This line came from the way Phil used to handle compliments some years ago. He would deflect compliments about, say, a …
Lynelle Paulick has a radio show on the local UCSB station on Tuesdays at noon and is hoping to be picked up by KCSB, which has wider So.Cal. coverage. We were on the show last Tuesday and spent a wonderful …