PHIL: So, another birthday ran into me and Maude deluged me with cards, in one of which she wrote, “This becomes our only task – live every day, every moment, for all it is, and be all we can be …
For the last three weeks, we’ve been writing about mutuality, union and core values, three foundational aspects of conflict-free peaceful relationships. Know Yourself While these are the critical underpinnings of the type of relationships we describe, there are characteristics that …
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Life has been particularly full and interesting lately. We’ve been working (and playing) to create and shape the workshop that we are offering in a few weeks. As is often the case when we create something together, we are also …
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PHIL: Some writings have seared themselves into my brain. One was Games People Play. It was the first time I had met the idea of unconscious motivations, and also of being direct with people. Another was Be Here Now, the …
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A core aspect of our relationship is the “We”. And yet we are each separate individuals. Herein lies a paradox we referred to in last week’s blog about seeing differences as an asset. As well as making the “we” central …
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This morning we were at our local breakfast nook working on blog topics. We each shared ideas about a possible topic, and some tensions arose unexpectedly. Maude wanted to continue last week’s theme of peace, and Phil wanted a different …
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To be in a successful relationship, it is very helpful to know and be comfortable with yourself. We all try to fit in with each other, just as the birds in a flock act together. We make ourselves more attractive …
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For the last several weeks we have been writing about the popular myths of work and compromise concerning relationships. Here are some of the types of statements even the most positive articles put forth: “Our individual differences make friction between …
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Differences are often seen as creating problems and conflict. Three main areas are: how things are done styles of socializing passions How Things are Done From the toilet seat and toothpaste to finances and child-rearing, what our partner does affects us. …
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Feelings of worth can flourish only in an atmosphere where individual differences are appreciated, mistakes are tolerated, communication is open, and rules are flexible – Virginia Satir In these strange days, where prejudices of all kinds are showing their ugly underbelly …
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