Author: Maude

Complete Honesty – How Important Is It?

The phrase “complete honesty” brings up many issues immediately. What does it mean? Are little white lies allowed? Does it do more harm than good?
In our experience, the answer is clear. Complete honesty is one of the basic foundations of every successful relationship.
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Do You Want this Relationship to Work? Intention Is a Key to Success

An important element in accepting your partner and finding a loving connection is your intention. You have to have the intention to find peaceful harmonious ways of being together, and this has to be something that is a guiding principle and a true value to you.
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Can This Relationship Work? Learn More About the Spectrum of Acceptance

In our last blogs we’ve been talking about the Spectrum of Acceptance and Core Values which lie at one end of the spectrum.
Next on the spectrum are the areas of middle ground. These are places of divergence between you and your partner that have the potential of resolution.
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Core Values and The Spectrum of Acceptance

Along with a discussion of core values, it is important to talk about The Spectrum of Acceptance. When we talk about successful relationships, we describe actions and values as lying along a spectrum. At one end of this spectrum are your deal breakers; areas of meaning and value that you consider to be core to your life.
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How to Completely Eliminate Drama in Your Relationship

In this article, Michael Russer discusses a favorite topic of ours. So many people think that arguing and fighting in a relationship show how much you feel and how important the relationship is to you. They have often been raised in households where drama is the norm and has come to be accepted as showing caring and involvement.
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A Favorite Quote of Mine – Rainer Maria Rilke

This is a quote that we used on our wedding invitations. It fit with our vows perfectly!
Once the realization is accepted that even between the closest human beings infinite distances continue, a wonderful living side by side can grow, if they succeed in loving the distance between them which makes it possible for each to see the other whole against the sky.
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Stand By Me

I’ve been listening to different versions of this song today…thought you’d enjoy this one!
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The Paradox of Separateness and Intimacy

Our time together has brought with it an experience which is a true paradox. The more we feel supported and acknowledged as separate individuals, the more we are able to open to each other. As we open and share ourselves deeply with each other, we enter a union that reveals the experience of a merged self.
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Conversations Between Phil and Maude

Maude: I feel stronger, better and more able to love others, as a result of this union of ours. Perhaps these words are too sweeping and sound like I have become lost in this shared merging. Regardless, I know that I am clear and grounded in my everyday world and that I feel like a carrier of peace.
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Some of My Favorite Virginia Satir Quotes

As some of you know, I am a big fan of Virgina Satir. As Phil and I have been working on the new book, we have been looking around for great quotes we like to intersperse with the text.
Here are a few of my favorites from Virginia Satir:
Is my past illuminating my present or contaminating it?
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