A professor noticed that anxiety and excitement have several physiological markers in common, so she recruited people to sing karaoke, and quelled their anxiety by having them say “I am excited.” This did not change the anxiety, but it did …
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Phil: I want to write about how we create these blogs because it illuminates the way we are together. We usually talk about topics until one appears and feels fruitful, explore it some, then go off and write separately. When …
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Phil loves reading advice columns and sharing whether or not he thinks they have offered insights. In a recent column, a woman described a situation where her husband had asked her a question casually in the course of another discussion. …
To be in a successful relationship, it is very helpful to know and be comfortable with yourself. We all try to fit in with each other, just as the birds in a flock act together. We make ourselves more attractive …
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If we are peaceful, if we are happy, we can smile, and everyone in our family, our entire society, will benefit from our peace. Thich Nhat Hanh For those of you following our writing, you know that we have a …
We’re still gone celebrating our wedding anniversary at a cabin in the woods, so here’s another popular blog from the past. Back next week! BEING SNIPPY is something that all of us have been at some time or another. We find …
We’re away celebrating our wedding anniversary at a cabin in the woods, so here’s a popular blog from the past. Drama, an all too familiar word in many relationships. “I can’t keep on with this relationship – just too much …
For the last several weeks we have been writing about the popular myths of work and compromise concerning relationships. Here are some of the types of statements even the most positive articles put forth: “Our individual differences make friction between …
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Everybody copies each other. People take their cues for how to behave from all around, like a flock of birds that wheel in formation. It’s hard to accept this; everyone has a sense of uniqueness and independence, yet people constantly …
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