Being In a Hurry
Dear Maude: It was after zooming through Trader Joe’s that you asked “What would life be like if we were never in a hurry?” That was a very illuminating question for me. It brought up images of summer holidays, of …
Acceptance…Blog Posts from “Secrets of a Successful Relationship Revealed”
Maude: Being with You as You Are and Celebrating That Dear Phil, We don’t seem to be busy with or involved in wanting our partner to be anything other than who and what they are. If you can actually be …
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Knowing Who You Are
Dear Maude, I wrote about “knowing what your own goals are”, and you wrote “you need to have spent time learning about yourself”, so we’re both acknowledging the importance that knowing yourself has in a successful relationship. The better you …
More Thoughts to the all Important Issue of Acceptance
In order to accept another person for who they are and how they act, it is important to feel secure in who you are yourself. I think to be in a successful relationship, you need to have spent time learning …
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The Requirements for Acceptance
Choices
Acceptance of the other means letting them do their own thing (pardon my 60’s). If we see them as less skilled or capable than us, the temptation is to chide them or correct them, but these are parental responses. Even …
Acceptance – Some Thoughts to the Topic
In preparing to write an article to the topic of Acceptance, we have been thinking and talking together about the components of this very critical aspect of conflict free relationships. I keep thinking that one of the places that people …
True Then and True Now
Over the course of our relationship, we have recorded sessions analyzing what makes our relationship so successful, so peaceful, so conflict-free. We have blogged, written articles, published a book, and sought different ways to communicate that peace is possible within …
Get Some Sleep!
Want to have a better relationship? Get a Good Night’s Sleep! That’s the conclusion of two UC Berkely psychologists who followed over 100 couples for nearly 2 years. “Even among relatively good sleepers, a poor night of sleep was associated …
I’m Me and You are You!
Excerpt from “Secrets of a Successful Relationship Revealed” pgs. 18 – 19 “I’d like to try to break down some of the qualities that seem so important to how we are with each other. One factor that seems critical is …
Is it Important to Be Right?
One of the things that I love about how we are together is the lack of either one of us ‘needing to be right’ or being concerned with ‘who is right’. When we listen to each other as we are …