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This week, we said make sure you pay attention to your relationships. Here are three articles that explore various facets of this.

Why Relationships Matter (Maybe Now More Than Ever) “The quality of our relationships is the single biggest predictor of our happiness—more so than business success, physical health, wealth, status or fame. While we may be in the unique position of either spending a bit too much time with others lately, or striving to maintain connections with those we love from a safe distance, it does all of us good to focus on and prioritize our relationships to set the foundation of a happy, healthy life.”

The importance of relationships for our well-being “As humans, we feel the need to relate to others in order to feel worthy and to feel that we belong. We are social creatures. It doesn’t have to be a romantic relationship. All kinds of relationships play an essential role in our lives! This includes your family, friends, colleagues at work and even people you meet at the café or gym you attend.”

How Your Relationships Can Bring Out the Best in You “People who are thriving are usually doing so with the help of others. Peak athletes have coaches. Top executives have mentors. Great parents have parenting blogs and other great parents to bounce ideas off of. Even those contemplative Buddhist monks who seem to be at the pinnacle of self-transcendence are almost always surrounded by other transcendent monk friends. Research backs this up, suggesting that positive relationships can help us succeed, grow, and become better people.”

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This week, we wrote that the more honesty, the better your relationships. These articles write about the importance of honesty and how to practise it.

Why Is Honesty So Important in a Relationship? “When we talk about honesty in relationships, our mind often goes straight to deception. We think about it in terms of whether or not someone lies to their partner. Or how often they lie. Or what kinds of lies they tell. But when we consider honesty only as the absence of deception, we miss an important piece of why it matters so much in a relationship.”

Why Is Honesty Important In Your Relationship? “When it comes to a relationship, one of the most essential elements is trust, and you can only have trust where there is honesty. When you consistently tell the truth, it gives others confidence that you will deliver on your promises and commitments. This applies to any relationship from business partners to friends and intimate relationships. Honesty will help any relationship to thrive.”

11 Reasons Honesty in a Relationship Is Truly Important “Displaying honesty in a relationship doesn’t mean that you have to reveal every thought or share every secret with your spouse. There are still plenty of reasons to keep things to yourself. You may choose to hold back potentially hurtful opinions, your private thoughts, or information that would betray a promise to a friend to keep something confidential. You also have the right to stick to vague answers if you don’t feel comfortable sharing information. When it comes to honesty in relationships, remember all of the good reasons to be honest. If you are inclined to withhold information, ask yourself: “Am I keeping this a secret, or am I keeping something private?” – There is a difference.”

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This week, we wrote about why it’s important to be present in your relationships. These three articles discuss why and offer suggestions on how to act.

The Importance of Presence in Relationships: Cultivating Intimacy and Communication through Mindfulness “Being present in a relationship means being fully engaged and attentive to your partner. This means setting aside distractions and focusing on the moment, paying attention to what your partner is saying, and actively listening to their thoughts and feelings. This type of presence helps to create an environment of open communication, trust, and understanding”

Why You Have to Share What You Really Feel and Want in Relationships “Relationships thrive in an environment of emotional safety, openness, and authenticity. This means that both people involved need to feel safe with each other, be safe for each other, and be willing to express themselves openly and authentically.”

The Beginner’s Guide to Being Present “A set of three studies from 2018 found evidence to suggest mindfulness can promote increased acceptance in romantic relationships. Being more present with your partner also seemed to have a positive impact on relationship satisfaction overall. Instead of letting your mind wander to your partner’s quirks or mistakes, or things you wish they would do, try focusing on the moment-to-moment experience of your relationship. This can make it easier to both enjoy the many things you appreciate about your partner and address problems or concerns as they happen.”

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This week, we wrote about how to strengthen your relationships with appreciation and acknowledgment. Here are three articles that offer suggestions on how to do that.

The Importance of Appreciation in a Relationship “Just how important is appreciation in a healthy relationship? “I feel, as human beings, we constantly crave for positive attention. And appreciating someone is the best way to go about doing it. The problem starts when we don’t even notice how we slipped into the habit of taking each other for granted and stopped caring for, and appreciating each other. This leads to other problems – arguments, frustration, resentment and suddenly we begin to wonder if this relationship is meant to work out.”

6 Small But Impactful Ways to Show Your Partner More Appreciation “Whatever the specifics of your last interaction, chances are very high that it was maaaybe more along the lines of “what do you want to eat for dinner tonight” than “you’re the best partner; I can’t even believe I get to do life with you; how did we get so lucky; hashtag blessed.” And listen: That’s normal! But it’s also worth noting that showing your partner more appreciation is one of the best and easiest ways to ensure that your relationship stays healthy and wonderful over time. Getting back to a place where you show your partner more gratitude on a consistent basis is a game-changer for intimacy and increased connection in a relationship over time.”

Cultivating Gratitude in Relationships: Why Appreciation Can Deepen Our Connections “Sometimes we take people for granted. We assume they’ll always be there, or we neglect to consider the effort and love they show us. The things they do for us may be smacking us right on the head, yet our mind wanders to how they could be doing more. Perhaps we look around us and see the relationships people have and daydream, thinking you wish your relationships were that way, too. This is the “grass is always greener” mindset… You once were ecstatic to meet this person or have this person in your life, but now it’s only a distant memory.”

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This week, we wrote about how peace is not just a verbal concept, but is also a direct experience, and by manifesting it personally, you spread peace in the world. Here are some inspiring writings on peace.

Peace Essay Winners Fishkill Plains Elementary in Hopewell Jct “Peace can mean a lot of things, and really the definition depends on the person. To others peace could mean quiet, relaxing and happiness, but to me peace is Humility, Love, and Caring. These traits are important to peace because if we act with kindness, love, and caring instead of hate then this world will be a better place with peace instead of anger.”

Twenty Ways to Promote Peace in Our World “In the wake of tragedies that shake the foundations of our communities, it becomes imperative to reflect on the concept of peace—not as an abstract ideal, but as a tangible state of well-being that is deeply intertwined with the fabric of individual lives and the broader societal harmony. Peace transcends the mere absence of conflict; it encompasses a state of mental, emotional, and environmental equilibrium where individuals coexist with respect, understanding, and compassion towards each other and the world around them.”

Rigoberta Menchú Tum Reflects on Working Toward Peace “In every corner of the globe the anguished cries for peace can be heard. Millions of people cry in silence, carrying on their shoulders the burden of our tragic, never-ending drive toward confrontation, conflict, and war. These same millions are also bearers of hope, of the unfulfilled quest for peace–a peace that will benefit us all by according dignity to all human beings. This need for peace is universal. From north to south and east to west, each day, with increasing frequency, people are speaking of peace. In some it appears as a speech; in many it is a vague wish or hope; in so many more it manifests itself as the ever-present search by men and women, young and old, to attain humankind’s most cherished principles.”