We write on many aspects of relationships, hoping to offer you new ways that you can put into practice in your relationship. These different ideas all tie together in our underlying principles. Our first book contained one statement illustrated in …
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Phil: The end of this year leaves both of us feeling unsettled by the social divisiveness that extends right down to the question of what is true. Society only exists through shared agreements, and their absence creates a backdrop of …
We have written many times about the extraordinary peaceful and passionate nature of our relationship, and in fact our primary goal in all our writings, books and blogs is to spread peace one relationship at a time. In these very …
Do you experience distance between you and your partner? Do you feel like you two have drifted apart? Are you missing that sense of union that created your relationship? If you are nodding your head and answering yes to these …
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When we tell people we never argue, they don’t call us liars to our face, but there is often a strong whiff of incredulity in the air. It’s not that we agree on everything, but these disagreements don’t descend into …
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I’ve been thinking quite a lot about the discussions we’ve had recently concerning power struggles within a relationship. We’ve been talking about John Gottman’s book “Why Marriages Succeed or Fail“. He observed many couples in terms of their conflicts and issues …
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Nearly every night we retire early enough to have time with each other.It may be conversation, the crossword or a movie, but whatever we choose, it acts as a zone of tranquility that restores us to the center. I attribute …
It’s pretty clear that one key to a good relationship is complete acceptance of the other. All their actions are OK; nothing is barred or criticized. By doing so, you offer a safe space for the other to be in. …
We’ve been reading “Why Marriages Succeed or Fail” by John Gottman. After studying hundreds of couples, he concluded that all of them contained conflict, and successfully resolving it was the key to a lasting marriage. We disagree. In the seven-plus …
We were talking last night, as we often do, about the ease between us. Whether going out, planning the day, working together or relaxing, there is a fluidity, a way of effortlessly choosing a path that works for both of …