On the first anniversary of our meeting, we made an astounding discovery. We realized that we had never had an argument, had never fought, not even a little. It has now been twelve years we’ve been together (ten since we …
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The other day we were visiting some dear friends who had just moved in together, after they had dated for four years while living separately. They described to us their unique arrangement of sleeping together and sleeping apart. They had …
Imagine you’re a teeny-weeny organism back in the depths of time. There are things you need and gravitate towards like food and sunlight, and dangerous things you move away from like predators, acidity or extreme temperatures. These twin approaches to …
Our experience has shown us that it is very important to be positive about both your partner and your relationship. Where you put your attention can often change your entire experience of what is happening. We recently read an article …
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Recently one of our readers asked if we could write about finding relationships when you are older. This connected with a discussion we have had a number of times and we feel it would be fun and hopefully helpful to …
One of the links in last week’s Reading Corner contained the statement “In successful relationships, respect is more important than communication.” Usually communication is touted as the most important thing in a relationship, so this was an unusual claim. We …
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Maude met someone the other day who shared the tale of celebrating his 35th wedding anniversary. Grinning and happy, he explained that he and his wife had taken time out and gone away on a trip together to celebrate. They …
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Maude came up with the phrase “all in” the other night, and that simple phrase crystallized how we experience our relationship. You’ve probably been in a conversation with someone who keeps checking his cell phone. “Uh huh, I’m listening.” Or …
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The other day, Maude created a big shift in our life together. She didn’t plan it that way at all. As we’ve shared here before, we spend time each evening in what we call our sacred space. During this time …
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Last week in our blog, we wrote “Learning to accept love is one of the great skills of life.” This line came from the way Phil used to handle compliments some years ago. He would deflect compliments about, say, a …