Reading Corner

Links related to the weekly posts.

 

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This week, we wrote about handling interruptions in conversations and how they affect your relationships. Here are some articles that discuss different types of interruptions and how to deal with them.

Understanding the Psychology of Interrupting “Constant interruptions can be difficult to deal with, but understanding a bit more about the psychology of interrupting can help you cope. Recognizing why it happens is a great place to start, but it is also an excellent idea to have a number of strategies prepared to help deal with the chronic interrupter in your life.”

The psychology of interrupting explained “At first glance, the psychology behind interrupting seems simple: A speaker is saying something and is cut off by someone else who goes on to express their own thing, leaving the former embittered. But there’s much more to interruptions than that. To begin, let’s talk about what constitutes an interruption.”

Stanford researcher examines how people perceive interruptions in conversation “Stanford doctoral candidate Katherine Hilton found that people perceive interruptions in conversation differently, and those perceptions differ depending on the listener’s own conversational style as well as gender.”

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This week, we wrote about why trust is so important in all your relationships, and our links agree with that and describe ways to strengthen trust between people.

The Definition of Trust in a Relationship “Before we go any further, it’s really important to address one of the common misconceptions about trust, and the idea that trust is something that is inherently present at the start of a relationship. That’s simply not true. Trust is something that’s built up over time, and it’s unrealistic to expect trust to be present right off the bat! It’s not made out of big statements or gestures, but instead out of the accumulation of many small actions. It’s grown through witnessing someone’s words match their actions again and again over a long period of time.”

11 Reasons Why Trust in a Relationship Is More Important Than Love “Trust in a relationship means you believe that your partner is reliable and has your best interests in their hearts. It means you have faith and confidence in them. And you feel emotionally and physically safe with them, just as they do with you. It means you expect respect, integrity, loyalty, and honesty in your relationship. You expect your partner to keep promises and secrets, and to support you when the tides get rough.”

Why Is Trust Important “Trust is something that two parties can build over time as they interact with each other. When people trust each other, they’re more willing to exchange ideas, share information, and support each other. In this way, it allows all of us to accomplish more than we could if we couldn’t rely on others in our lives.”

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This week, we wrote about how to find peace and harmony in your relationship through mutual solutions. Here are some other perspectives on how to achieve mutuality.

Learning to Make Joint Decisions “Learning to make joint decisions is an important part of any long-term romantic relationship. While decisions start small, with tonight’s supper, they get bigger, through the colour of the bathroom to whether to have children, how to manage childcare, and whether to move abroad to support one partner’s career, for example. Developing a reliable basis for decision-making and discussion will provide a good foundation for a long-lasting relationship.”

Your Decision, My Decision, Our Decision “Anyone who has ever tried to make a decision – small or big – with their partner knows how difficult it is. Why is it so hard? When you are single, your decisions are your own; they only require personal buy-in and typically they have very little impact on other people. (Or at least that’s what you tell yourself!) When you’re in a committed relationship, on the other hand, decisions require buy-in from both parties, and nearly every decision you make has an impact on your partner. ”

The 3 core skills that every person needs for healthy romantic relationships “It’s never too late — or too early — to learn the abilities that make up romantic competence: insight, mutuality and emotional regulation. And when you possess these skills, all of the relationships in your life will benefit, says psychologist and researcher Joanne Davila.”

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This week, we wrote about why it’s important to be aware of both words and emotions in your relationships. Here are some articles that will help you focus on the emotions and not get caught up in the words.

12 Reasons to Pay More Attention to Your Feelings “Emotions are such an internal and integral part of our lives that it can be easy to just ignore them. Yet our feelings are an expression of our deepest selves that can be very helpful when we listen. From motivation and mindfulness to decision-making and authenticity, much can be gained from simply paying attention to your feelings.”

Emotional Intelligence in Love and Relationships “Emotional intelligence (EQ) is the secret of lasting intimate relationships, largely because it makes us extremely aware of the changes—large and small—that are constantly occurring in ourselves and others. By building your EQ, you’ll have the sensitivity that each of us is always seeking in a significant other. You’ll automatically sense, through active awareness and empathy, the little shifts in the dynamics of your romance that signal a need for action.”

Attachment Styles and How They Affect Your Relationships “Attachment Theory is an area of psychology that describes the nature of emotional attachment between humans. It begins as children with our attachment to our parents. The nature of this attachment, and how well it’s fostered and cared for, will then influence the nature of our attachment to romantic partners later in our life.”

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This week, we discussed why it is important to be honest and share your truth in relationships. Here are some other viewpoints to that topic.

Why Honesty In Relationships Is Non-Negotiable & 7 Rules To Follow “Honesty is the quality of always speaking the truth and being totally authentic, straightforward, and transparent in our words and actions. It involves a few key practices: never lying, never hiding the truth, and never purposefully omitting or misdirecting people from the truth.”

Why Honesty is Important in a Relationship “When you build something, whether it’s something like a house, a business, or a piece of software, you want to start with a solid foundation. If you don’t, you may find yourself with problems down the line because what you created can’t withstand the stress of everyday use. The same goes with building relationships, be they business, family, neighborly, or romantic relationships. A key ingredient for a solid foundation for your relationships is honesty. ”

Love and honesty: what we hide and why we lie “I want to talk about honesty and dishonesty and how it comes into play in relationships…. This is about emotional honesty – the habits and ways of being that seem small, but actually create who you are and how you form bonds with others. Because the simple act of being honest can change your life in awesome earth-shattering ways. What I’m talking about is kind of like emotional lying – it’s subtler and therefore insidious in how it hurts your life – and it’s tied a struggle with acceptance. What I hope to offer is insight into why either you are “shielding” others from the truth or why others are doing this to you. I’d also like to sell you on the amazing and powerful benefits of being honest and letting go of control. Because that practice has amazing benefits in your life. Without further ado – three parts: what why and how!”

 

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