Everybody copies each other. People take their cues for how to behave from all around, like a flock of birds that wheel in formation. It’s hard to accept this; everyone has a sense of uniqueness and independence, yet people constantly …
Compromise is Not the Way to Success in Relationships Read more »
We try to write and teach about things that come from our direct experience, rather than from theories of relationships. As often happens, we went to breakfast this Friday morning to choose a blog topic. Maude suggested tone of voice, …
What Overlooked Things are Important in a Successful Relationship Read more »
We were recently asked during a podcast interview what factors are important to starting a new kind of relationship, one in which peace reigns and fighting and arguments are absent. Great question, and our first answer is always that you …
The Importance of Belief and Intention in Relationships Read more »
We usually choose a topic, write to it separately and then merge the two voices (see video below.) This week we decided to offer our separate voices so you can see how we write differently, yet share the same understanding. …
In this week’s blog we wrote about how to reach mutual solutions in your relationship. These articles address various aspects of finding solutions and doing so without compromising. Want a great marriage? Don’t compromise. “I define compromise as each party …
On the first anniversary of our meeting, we made an astounding discovery. We realized that we had never had an argument, had never fought, not even a little. It has now been twelve years we’ve been together (ten since we …
No Matter What You Think, Not All Couples Fight! Read more »
Imagine you’re a teeny-weeny organism back in the depths of time. There are things you need and gravitate towards like food and sunlight, and dangerous things you move away from like predators, acidity or extreme temperatures. These twin approaches to …
Differences are often seen as creating problems and conflict. Three main areas are: how things are done styles of socializing passions How Things are Done From the toilet seat and toothpaste to finances and child-rearing, what our partner does affects us. …
Differences – Strength or Weakness in a Relationship? Read more »
Family. Our parents, our children, our siblings. Then there are cousins, aunts, nephews. Perhaps you shared turkey with them last Thursday. Or maybe you are estranged from your relatives, and have made your own family; people you can share your …
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