Sex is New Each Time
When we come together sexually, we are open to each other. Nothing is hidden, nothing needs to be protected. We pay attention to the other’s sexual energy as much as we do our own. By such openness, we are also …
Author: Phil
Abundance Without Attachment
I just read a very inspiring piece in the NYT entitled “Abundance Without Attachment.” He writes: for those of us blessed to be above poverty, attachment to money is a means-ends confusion. Three practices can help. First, collect experiences, not …
Finding a Partner
I want to jot down some notes on finding a partner. Three points. Understanding what makes for conflict-free relating provides the basis for what to look for in a partner. You have to walk the walk to attract a like …
What We Want
Though there may be some people with a direct line to what they truly want, nearly everyone could benefit from knowing better their real desires. What blocks this is layers. A lifetime of layers. A lifetime of being told how …
Audio Release of Conflict Article
Our latest article “The Myth of Inevitable Conflict within a Relationship” was just published in Awareness Magazine for May/June 2014. It’s now also available as an audio file.
Why We Don’t Argue
The other night I remarked on the fact that we never feel in conflict with each other, and that this reflects a choice we’ve both made, just like neither of us watch stock car racing, because we don’t enjoy it. …
Mental Orgasms
Fascinating NYTimes article, I’ll Have What She’s Thinking, on the ability of women to have spontaneous orgasms.
Two Aspects of Tranquility
Nearly every night we retire early enough to have time with each other.It may be conversation, the crossword or a movie, but whatever we choose, it acts as a zone of tranquility that restores us to the center. I attribute …
Meditation 8
The road in passes through the emotions. It is necessary to experience them directly, to feel the anger, pain, or loss directly, without any interpretation, explanation or labeling. As the emotions cease,you are left in the state of pure being …
Meditation 7
We usually understand ourselves and the world through our mind. We use thoughts and words for this to great effect; so great that we easily assume that the whole world is amenable to such analysis. But thought is only a …