Core values – what exactly are they? They differ from person to person, and if your partner’s values don’t match yours, they will emerge as irreconcilable differences in your most serious arguments. That is why it is so important to …
What Are Core Values, and What Are Yours? Part I Read more »
Family. Our parents, our children, our siblings. Then there are cousins, aunts, nephews. Perhaps you shared turkey with them last Thursday. Or maybe you are estranged from your relatives, and have made your own family; people you can share your …
The only way in which a human being can make some approach to knowing the whole of a subject is by hearing what can be said about it by persons of every variety of opinion and studying all modes in …
Lawrence Gelber is one of those people who puts his thoughts for peace into action, and we find him a perfect candidate for our Friday Feature column. He is a New York based attorney who has acted for peace on a …
Phil and Maude’s Friday Feature: Lawrence Gelber Read more »
A student asked, “When times of great difficulty visit us, how should we meet them?” The teacher said, “Welcome.” Last week we wrote about the importance of staying present during a crisis such as a flat tire. This week, the universe …
Lynelle Paulick has a radio show on the local UCSB station on Tuesdays at noon and is hoping to be picked up by KCSB, which has wider So.Cal. coverage. We were on the show last Tuesday and spent a wonderful …
You find the car has a flat tire just as you’re about to leave for a doctor’s appointment. You’re house-sitting, you take the trash out and the door slams behind you, locking you out. You are the honoree at an …
Feelings of worth can flourish only in an atmosphere where individual differences are appreciated, mistakes are tolerated, communication is open, and rules are flexible – Virginia Satir In these strange days, where prejudices of all kinds are showing their ugly underbelly …
Why You Should Celebrate the Differences in Your Relationship Read more »
Drama, an all too familiar word in many relationships. “I can’t keep on with this relationship – just too much drama!” “We really love each other, but there is always so much drama. I wish we could find another way.” …
Can you avoid conflict in your relationship? Absolutely! And we don’t mean avoid as in ducking out of the room when it looms. No, we’re talking about negotiating differences without descending into recriminations, counter-attacks, hostility, hurt feelings and battle scars. …