Meditation 2
By continually bring attention back to the breath, there comes a point at which the thoughts seem to be flickering around the central column of breath like lightning; there is a sense of something other than thought being there. But …
Meditation 1
There are many sources that cover the mechanics of meditation (for example), but few go into very much detail on what it might produce. This is the first in a series of posts describing my experiences with sitting. I try …
Wholeness
Tonight you’re visiting friends and staying over. The wonderful thing about this night away from you is the sense of enjoying my own company and finding myself whole, just like the sense of wholeness when I’m with you. The thing …
Compatibility
The idea that shared interests make a couple compatible is very common: What Mr. Godla shared with Ms. Vignon, which he hadn’t with his first three wives, was “a passion for the field of 18th-century craftsmanship in French decorative arts,” …
Two sides of Criticism
Criticism is like an arrow: the sender only sees feathers, but the recipient sees a sharp point.
The Lack of Power Struggles Within a Relationship: Can This be Achieved?
I’ve been thinking quite a lot about the discussions we’ve had recently concerning power struggles within a relationship. We’ve been talking about John Gottman’s book “Why Marriages Succeed or Fail“. He seems to have looked at the many couples he …
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Is Conflict Inevitable in Relationships?
We’ve been reading “Why Marriages Succeed or Fail” by John Gottman. After studying hundreds of couples, he concluded that all of them contained conflict, and successfully resolving it was the key to a lasting marriage. We disagree. In the seven-plus …
No Thumbtacks: the 100% Factor
We’re excited because our new article was just published. It’s based on a chapter from our book Secrets of a Successful Relationship Revealed. We hope you’ll feel free to republish or share this with any friends who you think may …
Chance or Choice?
Sometimes I think that we put out such a strong message of how well we relate that people are discouraged and think that we are lucky to be so specially matched. But it’s not what we are, what lottery tickets …
The 100% Factor: The Transformative Moment in a Relationship
There are many factors to success in a relationship. Is there a critical moment, an event, a choice that makes things work? We have found that there is just such a transformative moment. In our relationship, our move towards this …
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