Reading Corner

In this week’s blog we wrote that we’re all one family – let’s act like one. These posts have inspiration for us all.

A New Map for Relationships “Working on global issues proved critical to bringing magic back into our marriage, and truly loving personal relationships provide the model for a peaceful, sustainable planet…. You will … see how the same tools that transformed our marriage—holistic thinking and compassion—can avoid future such catastrophes. The essence of this book is: “You have to believe in the seemingly impossible gifts of unconditional love and a more peaceful planet, and then dedicate yourself to discovering how to achieve them.””

Family and world peace “Have you ever wondered why some patterns keep reoccuring in your relationships?
Maybe you have a hard time trusting others or letting people come close.
Maybe you find it difficult to receive help from others.
Maybe you can’t understand why people could possibly want to be with you and love you?
If you follow the threads of these patterns, you will often end up closer than you think: your family.”

The World Peace Library “The World Peace Library has over 375 audio recordings with inspirational stories, skills training and powerful solutions by the world’s top peacebuilders, social change leaders, scientists, Indigenous elders and spiritual mentors.”

In this week’s blog we wrote about how to talk turkey together this thanksgiving. These posts all have insights and advice for Thanksgiving.

How To Survive Thanksgiving With Your Family Post-Election “Thanksgiving is all about coming together as a family to celebrate … except when it’s about coming together to argue about Donald Trump and Hillary Clinton. Some people are saying this holiday season is even more stressful than usual, though, as they’re dreading Thanksgiving Day political arguments with relatives.”

How to Argue Fairly and Without Rancor (Hello, Thanksgiving!) “It’s clear that American Thanksgiving gatherings are sure to be interesting affairs this year, as families split between Trump and Clinton supporters try to sit down to dinner without maiming one another — if they show up at all. So this may be a good time to explore what psychologists and philosophers say are the most effective ways to argue.”

8 Ways to Talk about Politics Without Ruining Thanksgiving Dinner “Contrary to the popular sentiment that discussing politics is just inviting trouble, political discussion is actually one of the bedrocks of our democracy. It’s how we work through problems, find common ground, and build compromise. We the People need to be able to talk — not scream at one another.”

In this week’s blog we wrote about the impact of the election–how to both stay present and move forward. These posts all have insights and advice on how to proceed after the election, as well.

The Critical Role of Self-Care for Handling Post-Election Stress “So what can you do if you’re feeling overwhelmed? Many of the practical steps you can take are common-sensical: exercise, see friends, be mindful, listen. And finally, when you’re ready, turn your feelings into action. ‘Try to place today in the timeline of your life,’ says Northeastern University psychologist Lisa Feldman Barrett, author of the forthcoming book How Emotions Are Made.”

5 ways to deal with post-election stress “Now that the presidential election is over, you may be feeling high levels of stress and anxiety…. Dr. Deb Sandella, author of “Goodbye Hurt & Pain,” promotes a body-centered, transformational technique that frees you of negative thoughts, according to her website.”

Beware the “All Trump Supporters Are Like That” Trap “This is a post about moving forward. And it includes an apology. This week’s election created a firestorm in this country that was like nothing I’d ever seen. Emotions connected with national politics are more charged and volatile than I can remember in my 46 years.”

In this week’s blog we wrote about how to stay present in a crisis and in your relationship. These posts offer some ideas about this.

5 Steps for Being Present “So, how do we stay present? The first thing to recognize is that, try as we might, we really can only do one thing at a time, so we ought to do that thing wholeheartedly. Most of our time is spent in the past or the future, rather than the present moment. What we end up doing is passing through that moment on the way to somewhere else and, in doing so, we miss the moment. That’s how life ends up passing us by – we do it to ourselves.”

6 Simple Ways To Be More Present In Your Relationships “Life can pass by at a dizzying pace. If we aren’t conscious of being present, we can miss a lot in the moment. Mindfulness dictates we do the opposite. By being present, we see opportunity. Mindfulness also allows us to enjoy sacred moments with our loved ones, and results in less stress and more rejuvenation.”

How to Foster Better Relationships Just by Being Present “Getting present requires a certain level of self-awareness. It is about putting aside your own thoughts, worries, fears, and insecurities and genuinely taking an interest in what that person is saying. When you press pause—physically and mentally—and hold a space for a person to express themselves fully, that person feels valued, heard, seen, and loved. And that’s all any of us ever really want. So how can we bring more presence to our relationships?”

In this week’s blog we wrote about celebrating the differences in your relationship. This week’s link cover various aspects of that.

How Differences With Your Spouse Can Make Your Marriage Stronger “When I first met Gail, I was attracted to her precisely because she was different. Sadly, after a few years, these same differences started to annoy me. In fact, I began to think that my approach to life was right and hers wrong.”

Differences “People say that “opposites attract.” We can be captivated by finding in others what seems foreign. An introvert may be attracted to the outreaching energy of an extrovert – who, in turn, may be fascinated by the inner focus of the introvert. Similarly, a dreamer and a practical person – or an intellectual and an emotional type – may be drawn to one another. Yet often the very differences that are initially attractive end up being a big source of conflict.”

Celebrating our differences “Nations, tribes, cities, villages, churches, and families have often learned the hard way that the manner in which we deal with our differences determines the quality the peace, prosperity, and progress of life in community. This is especially true of the intimate relationship of marriage.”