It’s been a crazy three months. A poll this week found that 80 percent of people thought that the country was out of control. We have been writing about personal relationships for years, drawing from our direct experience. When the …
PHIL: We’ve written before about how we each feel complete, and being together adds to us. This is in contrast to having a sense of neediness and wanting a partner to complete you. But in returning to this subject, I …
Last year we went to a talk by Anne Lamott. The venue holds a couple of thousand people and the place was filled to the rafters. Anne gave a wonderful talk filled with personal revelations, sharing of her journey and …
We’ve always held that one of the reasons our relationship works so well is that we respect the individuality of the other person. A core value and bedrock of our relationship is the commitment we share to supporting the growth …
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PHIL: Some writings have seared themselves into my brain. One was Games People Play. It was the first time I had met the idea of unconscious motivations, and also of being direct with people. Another was Be Here Now, the …
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How can we practice peace within our relationships? Delve into this question with us through these excerpts from How Two: Have a Successful Relationship: One of the most surprising aspects of our relationship is the direct experience of peace that …
PHIL: How many couples do you know who criticize each other? Try to control the other? Try to change the other? Nearly everyone behaves like this at times. But it doesn’t have to be that way. Imagine making no demands …
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Do you want a relationship founded in peace and dedicated to the highest good for both of you? Most of us do. So what goes into having that? There are some underlying principles that are part of any truly peaceful …
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Thumbtacks. It’s a metaphor about total acceptance that works so well that we used it in both our books, and we’ve found that it resonates well with others, too. Picture yourself barefoot, leaping and prancing around on a dance floor. …
Hi, Maude here. I’ve been facing some challenges to our usually very easy practice of total acceptance in this last period of time. What is this issue that has been so difficult for me? Healthcare and how Phil and I …
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