MAUDE: In the last weeks we have been sharing critical aspects of our togetherness and how they are important in relationships. We have written on mutuality and union. The third in this triumvirate is core values. Whether you have been …
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Last week we wrote about mutuality, a co-creative element of our relationship. There are two other factors that form the foundation of our way of being together. One of these is the union that arises from sexual connection. For nearly …
PHIL: One view of relationships is that they have a competitive element. They trade in currencies like love, chores, sex, money and compliments, and people maneuver to get the best possible deal. But you can instead throw away all those …
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Our partners and intimates are not mind readers, yet too often we act as though they are. We are taught in society to be polite, not hurt other’s feelings, be careful what we say and how we say it. In …
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A number of events have conspired to upset our daily rhythms. Maude has been spending nights away taking care of the grandchildren for a couple of weeks. We are both dealing with health issues right now; nothing chronic, but enough …
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I am young and single, which may make me an odd candidate to guest post on Phil and Maude’s blog, but I want to share with you how I have saved the relationship that I have with myself and found …
Valentine’s Day is at the end of this week and we have been reflecting on what we would like to share about this day that’s dedicated to love and the celebration of relationships. I love celebrating any and everything, and …
What makes a disagreement turn into an argument? Why do couples frequently have the same fight over and over and get progressively estranged from each other? What can we do to avoid these types of exchanges? The main ingredient in …
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One of our readers was sharing our blog with a friend and wrote, “Love their blogs, though they make it seem easier than it is.” This is something we have heard before, and we would like to address it. What …
Plenty of relationship advice says that conflict in a relationship is inevitable and healthy. We disagree on both counts. It may just be a matter of semantics. If it amounts to a statement that people shouldn’t suppress their feelings, we …
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