The only way in which a human being can make some approach to knowing the whole of a subject is by hearing what can be said about it by persons of every variety of opinion and studying all modes in …
Lawrence Gelber is one of those people who puts his thoughts for peace into action, and we find him a perfect candidate for our Friday Feature column. He is a New York based attorney who has acted for peace on a …
Phil and Maude’s Friday Feature: Lawrence Gelber Read more »
A student asked, “When times of great difficulty visit us, how should we meet them?” The teacher said, “Welcome.” Last week we wrote about the importance of staying present during a crisis such as a flat tire. This week, the universe …
Lynelle Paulick has a radio show on the local UCSB station on Tuesdays at noon and is hoping to be picked up by KCSB, which has wider So.Cal. coverage. We were on the show last Tuesday and spent a wonderful …
You find the car has a flat tire just as you’re about to leave for a doctor’s appointment. You’re house-sitting, you take the trash out and the door slams behind you, locking you out. You are the honoree at an …
Feelings of worth can flourish only in an atmosphere where individual differences are appreciated, mistakes are tolerated, communication is open, and rules are flexible – Virginia Satir In these strange days, where prejudices of all kinds are showing their ugly underbelly …
Why You Should Celebrate the Differences in Your Relationship Read more »
Drama, an all too familiar word in many relationships. “I can’t keep on with this relationship – just too much drama!” “We really love each other, but there is always so much drama. I wish we could find another way.” …
Can you avoid conflict in your relationship? Absolutely! And we don’t mean avoid as in ducking out of the room when it looms. No, we’re talking about negotiating differences without descending into recriminations, counter-attacks, hostility, hurt feelings and battle scars. …
For our 9th wedding anniversary we rented an Airbnb in the California Sierra mountains. We were sitting on the bed, luxuriating in being together in peaceful seclusion, and decided to each write our feelings down. Not surprisingly, although we wrote …
Both of us have lived in intentional communities and one of the rules in both of them (in different countries and languages) was that each member would have to have their own room. Even back then, we were aware of …
How Important is Personal Space in a Successful Relationship? Read more »