Plenty of relationship advice says that conflict in a relationship is inevitable and healthy. We disagree on both counts. It may just be a matter of semantics. If it amounts to a statement that people shouldn’t suppress their feelings, we …
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We hold that for two people to be in harmony, they have to have matching core values. They have to have the same approach to people and the world. We introduced this idea in a workshop we did recently by …
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Last week we gave a workshop on transforming your relationship. Our work involves creating and re-framing relationships as peaceful conflict-free ones. In order to do that a change in perception is critical – a change in how you see relationships. …
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MAUDE: Last week we wrote about how important it is to check in regularly with each other. On one of our recent check-ins, I shared with Phil that I was becoming deeply distressed about an area of importance to me …
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In this week’s blog, we wrote about reaching for mutual solutions in your relationship. No one else seems to be talking about this concept, and the closest we could find was articles talking about problem-solving and decision-making. The Art of …
Both life and relationships need a balance between planning and going with the flow. This is an important part of our lives and the lives of our relationships. Yet how do we do both at the same time? People differ …
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We usually go to breakfast, choose a topic, write separately about it and then merge our writings, but sometimes, even though we are saying the same things, we phrase it so differently that it makes more sense to present them …
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Recently we’ve had our share of challenges to work through. They have not been challenges to our relationship, but rather life’s occurrences we faced together. It had us both thinking about some of the basic underlying principles that help us …
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We were both touched by a letter we received describing a marriage where the writer is criticized over many small things by their spouse. They weren’t seeking advice, just sharing, but it reminded us of a couple we have recently …
PHIL: So after several weeks of coughing and night sweats in the spare bedroom, we’re finally sleeping together all night again. It feels like a major step back to normality. But in another way, nothing has changed. There is no …
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