We usually go to breakfast, choose a topic, write separately about it and then merge our writings, but sometimes, even though we are saying the same things, we phrase it so differently that it makes more sense to present them …
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We were at one of our groups discussing relationships with a woman who is in a happy marriage of 53 years. She shared her thoughts that it is the seemingly simple things that make a marriage work. She felt that …
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Recently we’ve had our share of challenges to work through. They have not been challenges to our relationship, but rather life’s occurrences we faced together. It had us both thinking about some of the basic underlying principles that help us …
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Thumbtacks. It’s a metaphor about total acceptance that works so well that we used it in both our books, and we’ve found that it resonates well with others, too. Picture yourself barefoot, leaping and prancing around on a dance floor. …
We were both touched by a letter we received describing a marriage where the writer is criticized over many small things by their spouse. They weren’t seeking advice, just sharing, but it reminded us of a couple we have recently …
We are back from our magical anniversary trip and it was even more than we had hoped for! Our plan for not having a plan worked out really well for us and led to some funny and glorious adventures! We …
As we are preparing to take a week-long trip to celebrate our wedding anniversary and our glorious relationship, we are feeling particularly blessed and grateful for our individual and shared lives. We recently watched a video on Facebook that showed …
In the political dialogue of this week, there’s been a lot of discussion about diversity; its supposed good and bad points. (Some of it is quoted below.) For us, there is no such thing as the bad points of diversity. …
PHIL: So after several weeks of coughing and night sweats in the spare bedroom, we’re finally sleeping together all night again. It feels like a major step back to normality. But in another way, nothing has changed. There is no …
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We write from our direct experience to share how well we work together. When we first saw this, it was a mysterious phenomenon, and we have spent years discussing and analyzing what, exactly, we are doing. Our idea has always …
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