Posts about all aspects of relationships
We talk a lot about acceptance, but people often reject it because they take it to mean “having to put up with“, so I want to examine in more detail how and where it applies. The acceptability of actions lies …
It is possible to live and love within a relationship without having conflict. We are merely taught that conflict is inevitable, and we have come to believe it. We expect it. Many people thrive off it, thinking that it shows …
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It’s pretty clear that one key to a good relationship is complete acceptance of the other. All their actions are OK; nothing is barred or criticized. By doing so, you offer a safe space for the other to be in. …
Dearest Phil, Looking at the issue of “never being in a hurry’ has been really profound for me. I have been looking at how this can apply to our modern day lives. I think that a key aspect of never …
Dear Maude, I wrote about “knowing what your own goals are”, and you wrote “you need to have spent time learning about yourself”, so we’re both acknowledging the importance that knowing yourself has in a successful relationship. The better you …
In order to accept another person for who they are and how they act, it is important to feel secure in who you are yourself. I think to be in a successful relationship, you need to have spent time learning …
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Acceptance of the other means letting them do their own thing (pardon my 60’s). If we see them as less skilled or capable than us, the temptation is to chide them or correct them, but these are parental responses. Even …
In preparing to write an article to the topic of Acceptance, we have been thinking and talking together about the components of this very critical aspect of conflict free relationships. I keep thinking that one of the places that people …
Over the course of our relationship, we have recorded sessions analyzing what makes our relationship so successful, so peaceful, so conflict-free. We have blogged, written articles, published a book, and sought different ways to communicate that peace is possible within …
Want to have a better relationship? Get a Good Night’s Sleep! That’s the conclusion of two UC Berkely psychologists who followed over 100 couples for nearly 2 years. “Even among relatively good sleepers, a poor night of sleep was associated …