“Be Here Now!” An injunction that many of us have accepted and tried to practice for years. And yet, how elusive this often is. Unfortunately, it sometimes takes a shock or disturbance to awaken us from scurrying around with our …
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Phil always admired a friend of his, also a programmer, who took time out to go surfing, play volleyball, travel abroad over Xmas. There are people like this who never complain about being busy. And then there’s the rest of …
We frequently mention core values in our writings without giving much explanation, so let’s discuss what they are, why they’re important and how they serve as the foundation for a good relationship. Whether you have been aware of yours or …
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MAUDE: I’ve been away for 5 days at a wonderful gathering with 30 women, called Sisters in Spirit. Just got back this morning, and Tuesday being our blog planning and forming day, Phil and I shared and looked at what …
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PHIL: How many couples do you know who criticize each other? Try to control the other? Try to change the other? Nearly everyone behaves like this at times. But it doesn’t have to be that way. Imagine making no demands …
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A core aspect of our relationship is the “We”. And yet we are each separate individuals. Herein lies a paradox we referred to in last week’s blog about seeing differences as an asset. As well as making the “we” central …
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Do you want a relationship founded in peace and dedicated to the highest good for both of you? Most of us do. So what goes into having that? There are some underlying principles that are part of any truly peaceful …
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Find your answers by co-creating them! One of the reasons we get on so well is that when we tackle a problem, whether emotional or practical, we are adept at finding a mutual solution, an outcome that works for both …
There’s more to active listening than usually gets discussed. We bumped up against this recently, while working on a Secret Project. We were talking, and both of us felt interrupted by the other. We’ve occasionally had this experience of being …
We write on many aspects of relationships, hoping to offer you new ways that you can put into practice in your relationship. These different ideas all tie together in our underlying principles. Our first book contained one statement illustrated in …
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