What is Sacred Space in a Relationship?
I so look forward to the time when we come together at night. It is a counter to the noise of the world; it cleanses my soul of the grime of the day. I am no longer pulled by the …
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Sex, Intimacy and Union Make For a Successful Relationship
Two voices, one message. MAUDE: I went to lunch with my girlfriend Rachel the other day, and she was glowing and exuding a wonderful sense of calm and peace. “Hey, what’s up with you? You seem so different than last …
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What Is the Difference Between Disagreeing and Arguing?
When we tell people we never argue, they don’t call us liars to our face, but there is often a strong whiff of incredulity in the air. It’s not that we agree on everything, but these disagreements don’t descend into …
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How to be Separate Individuals with a Successful Relationship
A topic that is basic to having a successful relationship is individuality: seeing your partner as a complete and separate individual, and honoring and celebrating them for that fact. This one understanding leads to almost all the other elements of …
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For a Successful Relationship, Appreciate Your Partner
We’re sure that when you first met your partner, there were many things that you appreciated, and you’ve probably noticed many more since then. But it’s very easy to get used to them little by little until they blend into …
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How Is a Peaceful Relationship Like Riding a Bicycle?
If you read our blog from last week, you know that belief and intention are the first requirements toward peaceful relating and finding mutual solutions. Once you believe this is possible and you have the clear intention to participate in …
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Why Are Intention and Belief Important in Relationships?
This week we are speaking individually on the subjects of intention and belief. PHIL: There are but two simple steps to having a wonderful relationship: believing such a relationship can exist, and intending to have one. It can’t be that …
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How to Avoid Trouble in Your Relationship: Don’t Keep Score!
Making lists and keeping score are really bad things to do in a relationship. Making lists is something we do in our minds and is always about something we have not communicated to our partner. They often involve expectations that …
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Do You Always Have to Be Right?
What is it about being right? Why are we all so obsessed with the need for it? Is this really what we want in a relationship, in a conversation, when making decisions and finding solutions? Being right – it’s the …
How to Avoid Power Struggles in Your Relationship
I’ve been thinking quite a lot about the discussions we’ve had recently concerning power struggles within a relationship. We’ve been talking about John Gottman’s book “Why Marriages Succeed or Fail“. He observed many couples in terms of their conflicts and issues …
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