Often when people think about the issue of acceptance, they think it is about compromise. Compromise is an act of giving up something to get something else. It assumes that there are different sides, and that one must settle in …
In our last blogs we’ve been talking about the Spectrum of Acceptance and Core Values which lie at one end of the spectrum. Next on the spectrum are the areas of middle ground. These are places of divergence between you and your …
Can This Relationship Work? Learn More About the Spectrum of Acceptance Read more »
In your relationship: Do you find yourself repeating the same arguments? Are you feeling distance and a loss of intimacy between you and your partner? Do you want to do things differently than you have in the past? You can experience …
MAUDE: I’ve been thinking a lot about my deep relationships with friends, family, and my partner, Phil. What makes those relationships so full of support for my own personal growth, comfort, wisdom, laughter, and relaxation? What brings me the most …
Why Knowing Your Values is so Important for all Your Relationships Read more »
MAUDE: It was recently our 20th anniversary of meeting (and a joyous celebration it was!), and Phil and I were talking about the components of our relationship and other deep relationships with friends and family. The flavor of those peaceful …
Why Peaceful Relationships Depend on What You Do and Don’t Do Read more »
This week, we wrote about how important is is to make fairness a foundation of all your relationships. Here are some other posts we’ve written that speak to different aspects of this topic.
PHIL: We had a couple of heart-to-heart conversations this week; one about desires on my part, and one about the desires of Maude. I don’t want to describe them because they both involved other people, and the point of mentioning …
How to Remove Tension and Find Peace in Your Relationships Read more »
You know the feeling of being at odds with another person? Don’t go there in the first place, and if you’re in there, get out. Don’t just look at what the other person is doing; look at what you are doing, too. Focus on finding a resolution that works for both of you.
This week, we said that conflict is not inevitable in your relationships. In our links this week, Dr. Heitler is prominent, and with good reason: she explains clearly why fighting in relationships is harmful and avoidable.
If you want peace in the world, and believe it is possible, then the same should be the case in your relationships. Come from a place of mutuality, rather than individuality.