Meditation 7
We usually understand ourselves and the world through our mind. We use thoughts and words for this to great effect; so great that we easily assume that the whole world is amenable to such analysis. But thought is only a …
Meditation 6
I was sitting once when I had a sudden sense that I was the breath. Several sits later, that experience remained. An image that came to mind was of two fields separated by a wire fence; one the field of …
The Golden Rule
Dear Maude, I like your AAA Post – that we all want to be accepted, appreciated and acknowledged. You hint in the title “Do Unto Others…” of a necessary symmetry, which is, of course, the golden rule: do as you …
Do Unto Others…
We all yearn to be accepted for who we really are. We all feel best when acknowledged for our true person. The more we are actually familiar with who we are, the more we appreciate others recognizing that as well. …
Meditation 5
Descartes said “I think, therefore I am”, and elevated the mind, the user of words, to the primary way of knowing. But if I do not think, does it follow that I do not exist? Of course not. And what …
What a Good Relationship Needs
It seems we’re both reaching the conclusion that you must have worked* on yourself before you can achieve a conflict-free relationship. And what does “work” mean? It means Using self reflection to know yourself. Being able to step back and …
What Gets Under Your skin About Your Partner?
What is it that gets under your skin about your partner? What are the little annoying things that you keep stumbling over? What causes those out of sync episodes, that so often can turn into arguments and real breaches between …
Each Partner Needs to Accept the Other
I understand where you’re coming from on this, but my first reaction was whether our visitors would. Then I thought about why they might not get it, and decided that would be for one of two reasons: they can’t find …
Acceptance is Not About Compromise
Often when people think about the issue of acceptance, they think it is about compromise. I am not berating compromise or its benefits, just pointing out that what we are discussing is a different path. This path is not about …
Acceptance after Conflict
Hi sweetie, I thought it would be useful to describe the context of “intention to accept” that you blogged about. We were discussing how easy it is for us to come together and be open to each other, and attributed …