Making lists and keeping score are really bad things to do in a relationship. Making lists is something we do in our minds and is always about something we have not communicated to our partner. They often involve expectations that …
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What is it about being right? Why are we all so obsessed with the need for it? Is this really what we want in a relationship, in a conversation, when making decisions and finding solutions? Being right – it’s the …
We so often hear people saying, “If you want a successful relationship, you have to work hard at it.” We have friends whose relationships span decades describing their journey as one of having worked hard to keep it going. There …
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Often when people think about the issue of acceptance, they think it is about compromise. Compromise is an act of giving up something to get something else. It assumes that there are different sides, and that one must settle in …
In our last blogs we’ve been talking about the Spectrum of Acceptance and Core Values which lie at one end of the spectrum. Next on the spectrum are the areas of middle ground. These are places of divergence between you and your …
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Along with a discussion of core values, it is important to talk about The Spectrum of Acceptance. When we talk about successful relationships, we describe actions and values as lying along a spectrum. At one end of this spectrum are your deal …
In this article, Michael Russer discusses a favorite topic of ours. So many people think that arguing and fighting in a relationship show how much you feel and how important the relationship is to you. They have often been raised in households where …
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This is a quote that we used on our wedding invitations. It fit with our vows perfectly! Once the realization is accepted that even between the closest human beings infinite distances continue, a wonderful living side by side can grow, …
We watched The One I Love last night. It is the story of a troubled couple who go away for a weekend to repair their marriage. The film shows each of the partners vacillating between their open accepting self and …
One-third. That’s the weekly squabbling rate according to a poll released last month. I’m not surprised, just saddened, because it doesn’t have to be like this. I like to illustrate this with a simple situation which can stand in for …
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