“Okay, so our core values match and we are ready to pursue a long term relationship.” So what now? “We’ve renewed our vows and want to re-create our relationship with peaceful intentions and an awareness of being on the same …
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Have you ever placed one hand flat on the table and smashed it hard with a hammer? Thought not, and that was because you chose not to. That is the same reason we never argue – because we choose not …
“I want to love you without clutching, appreciate you without judging, join you without invading, invite you without demanding, leave you without guilt, criticize you without blaming, and help you without insulting. If I can have the same from you, …
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We all start out our relationships enamored of each other. We feel that magical connection and even experience the ecstasy of union. We usually become couples because of this bonding, full of the sense that we are on the same …
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We wrote last week about core values and how they are fundamental to a successful relationship. This week, we want to talk about how to handle the small things in life, like which way the toilet roll goes or the …
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The beginning of love is to let those we love be perfectly themselves, and not to twist them to fit our own image. Otherwise we love only the reflection of ourselves we find in them. Thomas Merton Difference represents danger, the …
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The Three A’s: Acceptance, Acknowledgment, Appreciation I believe the greatest gift I can conceive of having from anyone is to be seen by them, heard by them, to be understood and touched by them. The greatest gift I can give …
We’ve talked about the importance of having aligned core values for a successful relationship. Breaking this down further, you can think of core values at two levels: universal and individual. Universal core values are based on the understanding that we …
In our last blogs we’ve been talking about the Spectrum of Acceptance and Core Values which lie at one end of the spectrum. Next on the spectrum are the areas of middle ground. These are places of divergence between you and your …
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I want to jot down some notes on finding a partner. Three points. Understanding what makes for conflict-free relating provides the basis for what to look for in a partner. You have to walk the walk to attract a like …